My computer crashing and having to have its hard drive and logic board replaced a few days ago might have thrown me off kilter and pushed me all out of shape because of the delay it has caused in launching my affordable singing lessons, but I decided not to let it.
Then I got to thinking about how a computer crash relates to learning how to sing and to making sure you can feel ease in singing.
It is always all about choices, attitude and what your singing mindset is.
You see, we have to guard our thoughts in order to free our voices and get rid of the tensions that lock up our vocal cords.
As a performer, composer, vocal coach and teacher, I am constantly learning new singing voice techniques to help my students. I honestly believe that if I haven’t experienced something for myself, I cannot honestly speak with authority on that subject.
So I am using the computer crash and the affordable singing lessons launch delay as a way to go deeper inside of my own singing voice awareness so that I can pass on even better singing tips to you!
How to stop tension from messing with your voice when life caves in
- It is always about the nervous system and what we set in motion with our memories and our beliefs about our lives, ourselves, our voice
- The good news is that we control it rather than it controlling us
- The other good news is that it is not that hard to change our responses
I call these responses to life’s unexpected struggles your singing mindsets.
What I mean by the nervous system, our memories and beliefs about ourselves actually has to do with something called “epigenetics,” a relatively new field of science that deals with cell membranes and how messages travel to and from the inside of the cells. I don’t want to get in too deep with this information, but a great book about the core discoveries that led to the field of epigenetics is “The Biology of Belief” by Bruce Lipton, PhD. Dr. Lipton was one of the early biologists who did stem cell research at Stanford University and has taught in medical schools both here in the United States and out of the country.
Basically, what he discovered is that the cell membrane holds the keys to how the genetic codes of the cell will respond to what goes on in your life. I am using very simplified lay language here because I want to quickly get my point across so that it will help you with whatever challenges you find with your singing (or speaking) voice.
When something upsets our “order” in life, like my computer crash during preparations for the launch of my Affordable Singing Lessons, for example, we respond automatically based on what Dr. Lipton and other scientists calls “cellular memory.”
And cellular memory is like your computer apps. Data is stored in them and if you open the app, the data inside of it begins to do its thing. It sends data codes and something automatically happens without you having to do anything other than click the button or link.
The key word is automatically.
Cellular memory in your body is pretty much the same.
If you have old patterns and beliefs about how unfair life treats you, for instance, your response to a computer crash could be fatalistic, which could make you angry or depressed and these emotions directly influence the way you use your voice.
Let me give you a personal example.
“No matter what I do, I always fail!
Yes, it’s hard for me to even believe it now, but that is how I used to think deep down inside of myself, way way down where in the cellular memory, in the sub-conscious memory banks.
Hard to believe about me, right?
But trust me, it is absolutely true. I have had an inordinate amount of traumatic experiences in my life that I won’t get into here except to say that people have often told me that they cannot imagine how I could be so positive when I have had so much hardship. And the truth is, I could have folded. I could have given up and gone the route of depression or worse.
Yet something inside of me made me get up over and over again and never never quit, no matter what. Something deeper than the belief about failure kept me going and that something continues to give me the strength I need to bring you the knowledge that I have with things like my 10 Free Your Voice Quick Tips (all for FREE) so that you can overcome your fears about your voice no matter what happens to you!
I have done much work on these cellular memory sub-conscious beliefs and am happy to report that I no longer believe that I will always fail no matter what I do.
Now I know that I will succeed because I don’t let things like computer crashes or bad news, or economic reports or rejection from others or anything else stand in my way.
I stay focused on what I have to give to the world to make it a better place and I know that part of what I have to give is my voice, my expertise, my humor, wisdom, techniques and easy to understand teaching style.
I honestly believe that YOU deserve to be heard so I don’t give up even when a hard drive gives up!
Now, my question for you is this: what is in your way? What is happening in your life that prevents you from experiencing the full power and freedom of your singing voice?
Whatever it is, you have the power to change it because you have the power over your inner beliefs and the messages that you send to yourself.
If you want to free your voice, I am here to help in many ways, so start helping yourself now by choosing at least one of them, if not more!